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Emotional Wellness

Emotional wellness is having a positive attitude, high self-esteem, a strong sense of self and the ability to recognize and share a wide range of feelings with others in a constructive way.

Evidence of Emotional Wellness:

*Ability to share emotional concerns

*Being able to say "no" without guilt

*Usually feeling content

*Believing you have a strong support system in others

*Feeling good about yourself

What’s a penny worth?

The obvious answer is “one cent.” But for many people, a penny is not worth the trouble to bend over and pick it up off the ground. They used to have value but not anymore. There is even talk about doing away with pennies altogether. Do you think anyone will notice if they do?

Do you ever feel like a penny? Many women do. Maybe you used to feel you were worth something but now wonder if anyone notices you or what you do. Perhaps you’ve been dropped, stepped on, overlooked, or tossed aside. Like the humble penny, you may feel you are not important . . . not worth the trouble . . . not loved. 

Not true.

You are wildly important. You are highly valued. You are deeply loved. We believe God loves you—wherever you are in life—whether you’ve lost hope in your marriage, dreams, family, job, friendships, finances, or even in God Himself. He has loved you for a very long time; Ephesians 1:4 says “Even before he made the world, God loved us . . .”

What does that have to do with pennies? The classic children’s rhyme said “see a penny, pick it up, and all the day you’ll have good luck.” We’d like to suggest a little update:

  • See a penny . . . and remember that your loving Heavenly Father sees you.
  • Pick it up . . . and be reminded that He sent His Son to pick you up and bring you into a relationship with Him.
  • And all day you’ll have . . . His love.
  • Adapted from Women of Faith


by Matthew West

"I think that if God forgives us we must forgive ourselves. Otherwise it is almost like setting up ourselves as a higher tribunal than Him".

C.S. Lewis

Forgiveness often requires us to make a choice to love the unlovable. Always a difficult task. But what happens when the unlovable one we must forgive is staring back at us when we look in the mirror?

The challenge of forgiving yourself can seem more impossible than forgiving someone else and even more difficult than believing that God could forgive you for mistakes you've made. The struggle to forgive ourselves seems to be Satan's last line of defense in his efforts to keep us held in the chains of unforgiveness. I may have found my way to forgive someone who wronged me. I may have found humility enough to ask for forgiveness from someone I have hurt. And I may have even opened up my heart to the life-changing knowledge that grace is—just as Scripture says—"the gift of God" (Ephesians 2:8 NIV).

But as long as my eyes are focused on my failures and I remain disgusted by my past, forgiving myself will be out of the question, and so will the possibility of living life to the fullest. Guilt is a gravity-like force, powerful enough to push a soul down to the point where the gift of grace seems utterly unbelievable: "You couldn't understand. You couldn't possibly understand." These words were spoken by a soul who could not get past his past. Guilt can be so consuming that the remorse you feel for your mistakes makes it impossible for you to rejoice overall that God has offered to you in the cross and through Christ's sacrifice for your sins.

Remember the disciple Peter and how Jesus restored his life, forgiving him for his denial . . . . Judas betrayed Jesus as well, handing Jesus over to be crucified in exchange for thirty silver coins. . . . Both disciples turned their backs on Jesus. Both were guilty of betrayal. Both were riddled with shame and remorse. But the two disciples allowed their guilt to drive them in vastly different directions.


You just don't understand. Well, Jesus understood Peter. He understood Judas. And He understands you. You may see yourself as unlovable, but God doesn't. Believe that what His Word says is true: "There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus" (Romans 8:1 NIV).

No matter how unlovable you feel, you are loved. Don't ask God to help you forget your past. Ask Him to help you remember the past in a new way and embrace the freedom of "no condemnation." Do this and then be prepared for God to use you—just as He used Peter—to reach an entire world of people outside your door who think they are unlovable, too.